FAMILY’S RELATIONSHIP

Relationship is the link between two people or more. Relationship is an important thing in our live. Because, as a human we can not live alone we need the other people in our live.
A very basic relationship is between parents and son. They know very well each other and have an intensive interaction every day.
There are 3 factors that influence the relationship. That is time, energy and money. Most of a busy and successful person has a problem with time. Time is a priority over which control is very difficult to achieve. We can not buy time, whatever we have in the world; we just have twenty-four hours into each day. Most of us sleep seven hours a day; go to work around ten until eleven hours. And parents just have six hours free with their children. And of course they must spend that time with their children. To communicate, sharing and give their attention to their children in order to make their relationship more closer.
Next is about energy. All work need to use energy, relationship also need energy, living in general requires energy, everything need energy to do. There are neutral energy, negative energy and positive energy. In negative energy you will feel very alone, disconnect and unhappy in relationship. But in positive energy you will feel more spirit and happy every day in family relationship. Work which does spend a lot of our energy will make us feel tired. Usually that make parents lazy to give attention to the children even though just for communicate. That’s a big problem, because children who need a lot of attention from parents will feel ignored just because the parents tired after work. So, manage the energy also important in relationship.
And the last is about money. Money becomes a priority in our live, because in our society money is a symbol. So every body works for the money. Parents, who always work, work and work just because the money will neglect their family. That’s not good. Relationship not builds by the money, but by the communication, understanding, love etc.
In family’s relationship we will find any conflict. Could be between parents or parent and children. The conflict can be because miscommunication, misunderstanding, discipline etc. In family, children who doesn’t obey the parents and do the bad thing will make parents angry. And usually parents will ask they to say sorry and they want their children promise not to do it again. But the mistake not all comes from the children, parents have a part of that. Sometime, the conflict can be happens between parents and that is more complicated. The conflict usually happens because jealous. Usually just because of that thing parents have a serious fight. Jealous can make uncomfortable and suspicion. And the top of it all, usually divorce is their final way. Actually that can make a bad impact to their children. They know it but still do it.
To solve the conflict is not easy. Because if the head full of emotions it’s hard to sit together and talk from heart to heart. And the hardest part of all is to say sorry and to forgive each other. Forgiveness doesn’t mean avoidance. Because forgiveness means to let it go and clean the pain and anger. Learn to forgive same as learn to love. Fight and bad emotion will never make a health relationship.
Over all a key to build the health relationship in family is the best management of time and energy. Parents should have a time for the childrens. Beside of that, the health relationship in family needs love and peace. Families, who love each other, have peace indeed and understanding will live in a happy family.
If we already reach a good and health relationship in family, we can make a good relationship with the other people in our community.